Each and every swinger has his/her own reasons for having sex with near strangers, and they are myriad. For me personally, in all aspect s of my life, I thrive on new experiences. Somewhat like a mix between the adrenalin junkie and the rolling stone gathering no moss. I don’t find real comfort in the mundane, unless it’s the mundane aspects of love, like sharing a conversation and a meal or simply having my beloved near.
There is nothing I love more than being in the arms of my life partner, but I do like to have new sexual experiences together with him as well. That’s how the whole idea of swinging began for me. More the fantasy in my head of hot orgies, hot MMFs, hot, hot, hot, and why not!
Overall, there have been few truly great swinging experiences, but interesting and entertaining ones, nonetheless. Sometimes we have play dates that are living out our own fantasies: ranging from the hot bi-guys or sexy ladies to groups of differing configurations. Other times we cater to the desires of our partners, which can be oh so very different from those of our own. That’s when it can get a bit outside the comfort zone. But afterwards, as my beloved and I are snuggled up for the night, we laugh about it all and marvel at the craziness of the various fantasies running through people’s heads. Some people fill the evenings with watching TV or drinking in pubs; we do that as well. But just as often, we can be found having sex with near strangers.
Some of these play dates are people to stay in touch with, becoming a bit like friends with benefits. Others turn out to be idiots and are destined to be sexual experiences not worth repeating. I am glad Robert is there to share those experiences with me, partly for safety. But mostly, it’s the shared experiences in life that bind us emotionally, and that means the world to me. After all is said and done, we have our love, and the rest is just a bit of orgasmic fun.
Could you separate love and sex?